Why is good parenting so hard?
Can I just say that out loud? Well as "out loud" as keys typing can be.
I don't want to be their best friend---but yet I kind of do.
But really, even a best friend, doesn't let you be a plain disaster, a good friend steps in.
I just want to let them play, but I know they need to do school and be responsible humans who eventually need to cook, clean and provide for themselves.
When I draw the line, when I call back inside, when I give a direction, when I assign a chore--- the storm erupts and I remember the story from school of "Pandora's box". Should I just say "never mind" and let them go back to being self-absorbed-only-one-in-the-world-revolving little humans just so that at least they behave more pleasantly in the short term. There would be no crying, not fits, no strong will excerted towards me. Just smiling happy self indulgent little ones.
Oh, but I know this path little one.
At the end of the day I wished I could have just given you everything you wanted, but its just not good for you. I promise you'll grow up to be a lonely, unsuccessful, and unhappy person. Even if you can hide behind your strength or beauty or alcohol or job title.
True happiness comes when you learn what its like to lay your life down for your friend. Like your Savior did for you. It's not about just you. Its not about pleasure and temporary happiness [preaching to the choir now in place]. It's about obedience that leads to a joy unspeakable.
Honoring the only one worth honor everyday by living out His Word.
So, right now, you can't let me listen to a song in the car without throwing a fit because "you don't like it", but my hope is one day you can listen to an entire album your wife wants to listen to in the car. Not because you can really stand it, but because... you learned to love... a long time ago.
By the way, if my hope comes true, and your marriage is successful...
a good best friend