tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post6281559856810672381..comments2023-12-13T12:58:39.963-05:00Comments on Candra Georgi: Mommy MartyrdomCandra Georgihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17996626978768535819noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-15666382800056788182011-01-27T12:50:55.866-05:002011-01-27T12:50:55.866-05:00My current season of life is one with teenagers wh...My current season of life is one with teenagers who do not care to get up early. So I get up earlier than them to have my quiet time. It definitely sets the tone for my day. Of course, through the years, it's looked different at different times. Everyone has to figure out what works for them. But time spent with the Lord is never wasted.Dianne - Bunny Trailshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04604043807160470553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-60544940999686008642011-01-27T11:03:30.561-05:002011-01-27T11:03:30.561-05:00ALONE TIME??? LOL! What's that? I do mine duri...ALONE TIME??? LOL! What's that? I do mine during nap time and that is about as good as it gets around here. We have a Daddy who works 12 hour days, usually 6 days a week. 8 am to 8 pm. He has a new job prospect that would make our life simpler and I am praying everyday that he gets it!My Captivating Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10546389739769193734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-17627974606030343912011-01-25T15:56:02.748-05:002011-01-25T15:56:02.748-05:00Candra,
Thanks for taking my comment so graciousl...Candra,<br /><br />Thanks for taking my comment so graciously. I didn't realize how LONG it was until after it was published. I didn't mean to write a book. :D Sometimes I do need that alone time. Just the other day my husband commented he wanted a coke and I quickly volunteered to go get him one. He replied that he would go get it and I said, "NO, I NEED to get out!" He understood and watched all 7 kids while I went to the library and the grocery store for a bit of quiet. I came back so refreshed. I just know that if I expect it everyday I will be disappointed. So I have learned to depend on God for the daily filling and take the quiet times as an extra blessing and gift. I also know that once upon a time a post like this would have left me discontent with my husband and life. I know that was not your intent. You wrote this to encourage us, but Satan likes to twist things and sow seeds of discontent. My comment was to encourage those ladies who Satan might tempt to think that they can't be the wife and mother God has called them to be because they don't get that "quiet time". God will fill us even if it is in the midst of a noisy home filled with rowdy children. We just need to seek and ask. I enjoyed the discussion on this cold, rainy day:DLivingFreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06170957011141675658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-34149676714127664372011-01-25T13:25:17.245-05:002011-01-25T13:25:17.245-05:00LivingFree, Thank you for graciously responding. I...LivingFree, Thank you for graciously responding. I always appreciate a different opinion brought with such tact and love. Oh, how awfully unproductive the other way is, huh? ha I am so fascinated that it doesn't appear in the KJV, we make it a habit to mainly read NKJV, good to note. <br /><br />I totally hear what you're saying. That's why I put "In as much as it is possible" and "is your preference, go for it" because as you so wonderfully brought up [great point!] it would be really awful and loving of us as wives to "put" this expectation on our husbands or anyone. Rather, it's a blessing when--- in agreement the husband "in as much as possible" gives this gift to his wife [if she wants it]. <br /><br />In your case, you have found other ways of alone time which is wonderful. And I too enjoy the Lord's voice while folding laundry, standing over dishes, etc. <br /><br />Let's do a for example, last night my husband got off work late and wasn't feeling well. My alone time was going to the grocery store alone, it wasn't like sitting alone and reading, but it was still a little break. He didn't have to do this for me, but I was so thankful. I didn't ask for it or demand it. My husband typically works long hours, but when he can he loves to do this for me everyday [it was actually his original idea].<br /><br />What's most important I think, is that we all find works best for our families...walking in the Spirit...hearing his voice for the answers of how to do this "life thing". <br /><br />Thanks for replying so in depth!Candra Georgihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996626978768535819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-7798647289144115092011-01-25T10:16:55.814-05:002011-01-25T10:16:55.814-05:00I guess I'm the lone dissenter here, but speak...I guess I'm the lone dissenter here, but speaking from experience, having the mindset that I "need" alone time every day and that my husband should provide that by stepping in and caring for the kids can lead to frustration, bitterness and anger. For the single mother, the military wife, or women whose husbands work odd hours, long hours, or travel this is not an option. God will supply our every need and our need is to rely every single moment of every single day on Him. We need to fill ourselves with His word, pour our hearts out to Him in prayer and listen and follow Him. We can get those quiet moments in throughout our day, more like several small meals in a day, as opposed to one large feast a day. We can train our children to play quietly for a short time while we study God's word. In one of Elizabeth Elliot's books(can't remember the title)she shares of how her mother would sit in the rocking chair with her head covered with a dish towel while she communed with God. The dish towel was a signal to the children to NOT interrupt her. Here are some ways that I fill myself with God's word throughout the day, read a verse or two early in the morning and spend time meditating on those verses as I tend to my morning duties with the children, verses posted on the window above my sink, where I can read and meditate on these as I do the dishes, short devotionals located in the bathrooms, Bible next to the chair I normally sit in to nurse the baby. I pray as I shower, fold the laundry, and throughout the day as things pop into my mind. Whenever something disturbs me or causes me anxiety I immediately take it to God. I cry out to Him for wisdom constantly as I'm faced with decisions to make throughout the day. I play praise and worship music while we do chores or ride in the car. I also put on teaching cd's in the car that minister to me and the kids. When I had all little kids I would put them in the stroller and go for a walk, praying while they enjoyed the fresh air. There are times when I desperately need a feast of complete alone time, and God has always been faithful to provide in those times and give me the refreshing I need, but I can't expect these on a daily basis. I do meet with Him daily and when my children interrupt during one of these times with Him, then I just introduce them to Him, I share the verse I'm reading with them or let them join in my prayer. I have at times suffered from Mommy Martyrdom but it is normally when I've placed unrealistic expectations on myself or others instead of clinging to God and abiding in Him. Just out of curiousity I looked up Luke 5:16 in the KJV and found that it says "And he withdrew himself into the wilderness, and prayed." The word "often" is not found here and when I checked Strong's Concordance I could not find any reference to a Greek word that referred to often. I'm not a Bible scholar but I just found it interesting to note that word was not in the KJV version. All of this is said in grace and love. You are blessed that your husband will step in and give you that alone time, but for those of us that do not have that, we should not let it hinder us in our relationship with God, our husbands or our children. God will meet us and fill us, if we seek Him whenever and however we can. I will add that although the tips I mentioned may seem as if I leave meeting with God open to chance, I do plan times with Him, I just know they must be short and I plan many throughout the day, so that if one gets interrupted or doesn't happen then I have others. At the season of life I am in I find myself seeking and crying out to Him ALL day long. I am weak and He is strong. I need His strength to make it through the day. Great thought provoking post!LivingFreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06170957011141675658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-90782196362561433612011-01-24T18:39:28.843-05:002011-01-24T18:39:28.843-05:00This one is great. I think in the church realm all...This one is great. I think in the church realm all we sometimes hear is that we are to give, give, give of ourselves as moms and wives. I read a book recently called Passionate Housewives Desperate for God that left me feeling more desperate. Thanks for bringing up the point that we can have our quiet time when it works for us. Not in the early hours after being up with 2+kids! God will meet us where we are and for the little bit of time we give Him, He is always faithful to meet us there! We are important and need to be filled up. Sometimes I go and walk thru a store all by myself, or read a book at Starbucks and I feel so refreshed afterwards. My hubby likes a happy wife! Great post! I'm always inspired when I get to read your blog!Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18125931870470150067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-42381764618914050142011-01-24T18:09:11.073-05:002011-01-24T18:09:11.073-05:00Amen sister! I have been so busy these last few we...Amen sister! I have been so busy these last few weeks with my family here from out of state, that I haven't had time to spend with Jesus! I have notice that my attitude sucks (can I say that?) Anyways, I haven't posted a devotion in to weeks. Thank you so much for todays post God used you to speak to me. Pray that my attitude will change!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775569397875293860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-37549181324722480352011-01-24T12:32:04.652-05:002011-01-24T12:32:04.652-05:00Thank you for this, I needed the reminder for sure...Thank you for this, I needed the reminder for sure!Bird's Eye View Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08813489889625737678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-17860795773414049602011-01-24T11:03:36.642-05:002011-01-24T11:03:36.642-05:00Thanks for that reminder! Usually right after Gra...Thanks for that reminder! Usually right after Grace goes down for her morning nap I have alone time with the Lord. I konw she's good for at LEAST 30 minutes, even if she doesn't fall asleep. And usually I get out of the house alone time once a week to meet a friend for coffee or just sit and stare at the wall at panera :) I have a hard time not going right to my office after she goes down to make sure I get my hours in - but I try to remind myself, as you said, I can't invest in anyone else until I've invested in me. :)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08149534797086498029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136857044000164838.post-23438336587402991872011-01-24T08:55:01.080-05:002011-01-24T08:55:01.080-05:00I totally agree! I am usually able to steal away ...I totally agree! I am usually able to steal away for a few minutes after dinner while Chris does bath time with the kids. Sometimes it's only 10 minutes but oh my word, does it do the trick!Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621679662211376413noreply@blogger.com